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Engagement Ring Things

Waking up being engaged, I realized I had this beautiful new ring and so many questions! Should I size it? Will my finger stay the same size over time? How do I clean it? Should my husband’s ring match? I never realized how much I’d become a diamond lover, but who can resist sparkly things? I will mention that my husband did good job with his research and paid attention to those four c’s (cut, clarity, color, and carat weight) so it really had a brilliant sparkle. Shout out to Blue Nile where he was able to custom choose specs for the diamond and band. Here are some of the engagement ring things I learned during my experience.

I was surprised to find out how much our fingers fluctuate throughout the day. At first I thought the ring might be a little loose and perhaps I should get it sized down. During warmer days, fingers tend to swell and I noticed it fit better. Typically, soldering your wedding band to your engagement ring keeps the ring on better reduces spinning, so I decided not to get it sized, but get it soldered. I also liked the idea of having a little wiggle room in the ring for if we get pregnant. I’m hoping to never have to part with the ring, even if only temporarily!

Consensus seems to say that two loose rings rubbing against each other as they spin can cause damage to them so it made sense to get them soldered. I did find that after the wedding once they were soldered, they did not spin as much. I believe it cost me around $125 to solder them together, which could be a bit higher than the average price. As for cleaning, I think around every six months it’s good to get a professional cleaning, while you can also clean yourself in between by letting it soak in lukewarm water and dish soap and then scrubbing with a toothbrush. You’ll be amazed how beautiful your ring looks again after a professional cleaning.

There’s so much hype around the bride’s ring, but not much about the groom’s. Just as my guy did his ring research, so did I. There were so many different options from platinum to gold to tungsten or steel. We had some conversations and I got the sense that he was leaning towards gold like his dad had. There’s something classic about gold.

I toyed back and forth with the idea of a surprise ring for him. As women, we get all the fun of a grand gesture and special token and I thought doing the same for him would be fun. I ended up finding a handmade 14k gold ring with a matte finish on Etsy by Aide Memoire. I knew he would appreciate something a little more unique which is why I went with a matte finish instead of a shiny finish. I made sure it had a comfort fit instead of a standard flat fit since I learned that those were more comfortable with their rounded interior.

I waited until a memorable experience in San Francisco overlooking the bay and popped him the question, “did I choose the right ring?” Fortunately, he loved it and I was glad I took the risk!